Happy Wednesday evening my friends...I pray your day has been a good one and that each of you is taking some time to relax and get some rest. I pray that circumstance today gave you opportunity to be good to someone in need, did you give any of the free gifts that were brought up in my blog on Monday??? I hope if you did not that you will try to institute it into your day tomorrow!
In prayer this evening I began by giving thanks for all of God's blessings, I continued to pray for my special needs, asking God to help me find a way to make the changes I need to make in my life. The answers are so close but the means are so far away. I am praying for his guidance and for his blessings in this. I asked special blessings for each of you, that your prayers be answered and that he afford you a way to meet your needs. I asked him to provide each of us with calm in our hearts, comfort in our bodies, peace in our minds, strength in all the things we aspire to do and for his every present and soul soothing unconditional love. I asked for all of these favors and mercies in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
Secrets Of Staying In Love
The results are in. I have learned that, after careful consideration and endless debate, The Perfect Man has finally been named: "Mr. Potato Head." Let me tell you why. He's tan. He's cute. He knows the importance of accessorizing. And if he looks at another girl, you can rearrange his face.
I don't know if Mr. or Ms. Potato Head is right for you. But I'm not a big believer in the idea that we MUST find a perfect match, anyway. There are plenty of happy people who are not paired with someone else. And there are also plenty who may not say they found Mr. or Ms. Right, but are living quite happily with Mr. Almost Right or Ms. Close Enough.
Marriage and long-term commitments may not be for everyone, but if you plan to be with someone a long time, can you stay in love? Does a lifetime relationship have to seem more like a life sentence? I think we're tempted to believe that real love is a myth, a long-term relationship is a marathon and romance is for kids. Are there secrets to staying in love? Over the long haul?
I believe in love and romance, and I know it can last a lifetime. I also believe there are a few simple things we can do to help our love grow over the years.
For one thing, find time to date. I don't mean time to rehash the stuff you talk about all week long. Get away and talk about things that matter. Use this as time to focus on one another, not to solve problems or to raise issues. There are other times to bring up difficult subjects.
Next, understand what delights the other and make it happen. "The romance is over," says Marlys Huffman, "when you see a rosebush and start looking for aphids instead of picking a bouquet." What makes him laugh? What brings her pleasure? And what can you do today to delight each other?
Also, remember why you got together in the first place. When you focus first on his faults you're not thinking about his strengths. When you're busy pointing out her imperfections, you're not enjoying those qualities that attracted you to her initially. Choose to appreciate that which first drew you together and remember it often.
And always - plan enough time for fun. And don't always plan times for fun -- be spontaneous. Laugh. Go places. Play.
A woman from Charleston, South Carolina was overheard to remark that it was her 53rd wedding anniversary. When asked if she planned a special celebration, she smiled and said softly, "When you have a nice man, it really doesn't matter." I suspect they learned the secrets of staying in love.
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